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What Matters Most by James Hollis, PhD

Quite possibly the best book I have ever read, though Mindsight by Daniel Siegel ranks equally high, so I guess there are two best books I have ever read. Excerpts from my favourite chapters: That We Risk Growth Over Security & That We Accept at Last that Our Home Is Our Journey "Our moral, intellectual, and emotional development embodies a series of deaths, followed by enlargements of soul often painfully acquired.... Through analysis I learned that something in me had to die before the rest of me, the larger part, could live.... In choosing security over growth, we all outrage the soul, and the soul, outraged, manifests in symptoms-depression, anxiety disorders, envy and jealousy of others, dependencies, and so many more.... We all set off expecting the achievement of our goals to bring lasting satisfaction. It is not that the goals are unworthy, as such, but that they so often become tempting stopping places for the soul, places where we decline the invitation to trade ...

Excerpts from Chris McCormack's blog:

What is ‘potential'? It is a perceived forecast of results that is generated both internally by the athlete and externally by peers, parents and experts. It’s not a guarantee. It’s not really REAL. Because it's not something you can hold and touch; it is always something you struggle to grasp, and this inability to pinpoint exactly what it is can be both a curse and a blessing. Getting this balance in sync is the entire name of the game. Hope is an emotion that you tend to push aside...I don’t have to rely on hope. 'Great things happen to people who make great things happen to themselves.' Simon Whitfield said that after he won the Sydney Olympics in 2000. We train too hard to hope that we can win.

There is no such thing as something bigger than you.

For the days when I think too much about myself I am writing this blog with excerpts taken from "Average versus Exceptional" by Dragos Roua . Average versus Exceptional Being an average person surely gives you a bit of safety. Average is cozy. You don’t get too much resistance from society, as long as you fit in the limits. In fact, being average guarantees that society will support you rather than reject you. Exceptional is risky. Risk is dangerous. Risk can not only put you in danger but it can be extended to your close group, to your community, to the entire society. This is why exceptional people are usually rejected by society. Being exceptional is surely an exciting path but it can also be filled with trouble. Being average is usually easier; all you have to do is follow the rules. Go to school, graduate, get a job, get married. But this will not guarantee in any form that you will be successful, or that you will live a fulfilling life. It will be safe and you’ll s...